Is a pandemic.
No one will admit to it. No one even has the audacity to say that they are lonely.
But we should realise this, that we are all alone, together.
This is perhaps verging on a confession but I am probably lonely.
Maybe me listing the things that make me not lonely may inspire you.
Ok. Listing all the good things about me (join in) makes me seem vain. Just know loneliness is more common than you might think. & we all have good aspects about us.
If you know about the brain, as I have done a lot of research on it cause mine is broken. This is just an iota of the (interesting) information there is on the subject.
You may know that those who are more mature on the left hemisphere of the prefrontal cortex (PFC) are more factual & this hemisphere is accompanied with happy or liking or just positive emotions. It thinks in digits & words.
The right side thinks in pictures. This side, in opposition, produces more negative emotions.
Each side of the PFC deals with the opposite part of the body.
One way I think is a good way to read if someone is more mature on left or right brained is how they remember phone numbers; left = digits, right = how the combination looks like when dialled.
Had a fabulous dinner at @sixbynico in #edinburgh. The theme was “neverland” & consisted of :
Course 1 -Pepperoni Pizza
Course 2 -Ham Hough & Cheese ‘Toastie’, Celeriac Remoulade, Black Garlic Emulsion & Golden Raisin
Course 3 -Shellfish Risotto, Smoked Cod Botarga
Course 4 -Black Pollock, Bang Bang Sauce, Charred Cucumber, Satay Emulsion, Pak Choi
Course 5 -Confit Chicken Ballotine, Piperade, Red Pepper Romesco, Saffron Emulsion & Tarragon Salsa Verde
Course 6 -Baked Salted Caramel Delice, Caramel Mousseline, Buttermilk Ice Cream, Maple
Every time it has a 6 course tasting menu with a new theme or cuisine. All dishes are cooked to perfection.
Each dish was called something simple like “cheese on toast”, but was taken to a gastronomic, five dining level.
The model of infrequent cuisine keeps the customers coming back for a future different experience.
I guess this is what makes tasting menus so attractive. I think that makes me a foodie.
With this big day coming up, there is a lot of focus on finding/having a significant other. Those who haven’t got one, probably feel so lonely, feeling unwanted, usually.
I have noticed a trend in #love where people are looking to find their other. So below I have listed to an audiobook called “5 love languages” by Gary Chapman.
Being a single lady, I hate the dating game. Although this book is targeted to those in relationship. So I am going to see if I can translate all the lessons taught in it. Because all of us want love…
It ends with the 5 love languages, but goes into detail about each one throughout the book. I’ve done all the hard work, spending the time reading it & have condensed down without the jargon. So here are the five:
1. Words of affirmation.
2. Quality time.
3. Getting gifts.
4. Acts of service.
5.Physical touch.
That’s them in short, I will be going into detail about each one in future posts. That will keep me busy for the time being.
Of course there is huge market now, with valentines day around the corner. Being younger, there’s more appreciation in gifts which have a monetary value. But as we grow, it’s the gifts that have the emotional value that make a bigger impression.
Even a free like picking a flower or drawing a picture, maybe. These shows you have spent time deciding on what best to give them, that energy of doing so, & the effort they have gone to to get something perfectly sound to your preference.
There is also the physical presence which the gift giving moment has passed, leaves a brilliant memento of that moment.
About gift which isn’t usually considered a gift is a gift of presence. Quality time is like the TEE of making your gift.
Don’t forget living gifts. As much emotional value which maintains vicariously.
Use your imagination like planting a plant or a tree. That’ll show you’re in long term.
So I can’t really read this but here is the handwritten plan for my workouts at the gym…. all with what I proposed to get me walking in the heels. I’ll go into more detail about what’s included in a future post, but in short it is;
Warm up : crosstrainer 5 minutes followeds
5 minutes backwards
Matt work: stretching hips, reverse squats from kneeling with kettlebell
Smith machine: squat & arms (more detail in future posts)
Stretching
Row machine L5
I can’t read the rest but shall divulge in future posts
Today I had a marvellous lunch with some friends at I J Mellis.
Mellis is a cheese merchant & our lunch was best described as “refined” & “boujee”.
For this lunch we had wine & cheese, don’t you know… so I had:
-cornicons & oatcakes(which came with all dishes)
-Torres Truffle
-Lancashire blue (cheese)
-Blackmount goats cheese
-chorizo
All cheese & meet have no carbs. Check out their website https://mellischeese.net but it’s nothing like going to the shop.
I’m releasing my diabetes & starting on care counting. This is basing on set doses of insulin.
Tonight, as I’m trying to get through the food I have left. This is particularly the dried food in the cupboards, I have come to terms that I’ll never get the motivation to cook. Or want to eat.
I have done spaghetti bolognaise, couscous, lasagna, lentils and sushi (lots of sushi rice, lentils, couscous) & more left in the freezer.
I portioned out my Japanese dumplings tonight, the amount of tonight’s dumplings, however, was pitiful.
Carbohydrates needed (for me I’m 1unit of insulin = 10g carbohydrates)
% carbohydrate in 100g (most food has this in “nutritional information” found at the back)
X 100 (This ratio is just an average for me, so depending on your doses & how much you eat it may vary. )
It has certainly evolved with the career of being an “influencer”. It’s certainly understanding how the culture & technological advances affect trends.
So what is persuasion? I’ll give you some examples which have been experimented scientifically.
It really depends on the geographic culture on how you act to the subject. That can be in what manner you speak to them (pronouncing particular things in a certain way) or the content of conversation or everything down to manners.
A way to influence is to tap into the fear of loss. That can be something like “we only have 2 left” or “a woman across the country is wanting more than you” -competition- or wanting what you can’t have -scarcity- sale price or sell by date.
There’s forms of influence, like if someone gives you a gift, you feel like you owe them something in return where it’s a gift, a favour or an invitation. We dismiss or have nasty names for those who don’t show obligation, like “mooches”.
It’s not what we receive, it’s that we re.
In financial terms, most of the things we are persuaded to do (or buy particularly) is not about the monetary value of the item. It’s about how awful, psychologically, to dismiss it.
https://neurosciencenews.com/m1-optic-nerve-regeneration-22298/
It has been found a small molecule that can stimulate nerve regeneration & restoring qnerve vision after injury in the optic nerve. Where your brain meets your vision.
TBIs, spinal cord and optic nerve in the central nervous system (CNS) are problems with seeing, being the main form of disability & 2nd leading cause of death globally. Injuries caused by CNS, being a result in a traumatic loss of the senses, motor response or visual functions (is sight not your main important sense) are potentially manageable.
Scientists have found a molecule which can penetrate regeneration of nerves, resulting visual functions after the connection of the brain to visual stimulus is injured.
So maybe there’s hope for loss of sight due to optic nerve damage.
This would be the best situation to say I have no sight in my right eye.